So its that time of the year again, I’ll be here and I’ll watch my friends (senior colleagues actually) graduate from school. People with whom time trusted bonds have been formed, people I call family, earlier today I was telling someone dear to me that it’s a shame I don’t know how to cry because this would have been a very teary moment. I’m in my sixth year in the University (That’s if Pre-degree counts though) So I think I’ve done this for five years successfully, and I can say I’ve mastered the art of letting go without Letting go. I’ll be sharing my thoughts, tips, opinions about this.
I’ve understood that Parting is inevitable: Men are in sizes and life is in phases. There is a limit to the size you can attain in each phase of life. Parting especially when it’s taking a step upwards like the scenario we’re looking at is inevitable because it’s assumed (and most times rightly) that you’ve learnt all (or most of) what you could have learnt in this phase and need to move to another and just like you will get to outgrow this phase at some point. Just like Jesus said to the disciples in the build-up to his trip to Calvary making them understand that, their emotions notwithstanding, it’s expedient and in their best interest that he goes.
Understand that you’re no longer in the same phase: I hear people say,” You’ve forgotten me” or as some of my friends would say “Out of sight is now out of mind abi?” But I’ve come to realize that even with bosom friends when one moves to another phase it takes a lot to still fit into another’s life the way you used to. Truth be told what keeps friendships are shared visions, goals, interests, Hobbies, Ideologies, etc. so when goals change, like in this case the goal for the ‘leaver’ is no longer acquiring an education in some discipline of study but the goal of the ‘levee’ is still the same so we realize that the very foundations of our friendships are tested, and if it doesn’t shift and rest on something else we just throw such friendships away, or worse allow it die a natural death. Be understanding with them and find out how you fit into the new picture and how the person they have become fits into yours
Maximize every moment: Relating with friends who’ve graduated and are up to something with their lives has made me place a premium on time, you don’t see them around often like you used to. Even if for any reason they are still in or around the campus you don’t bump into them like you used to before so we’ve got to maximize the moments. For a few really dear to my heart 15-20 minute long calls weekly (or at most bi-weekly) would do for us to catch up on all we’ve missed, update ourselves on goals and visions were running with, new interests, new friends, challenges and all. So while we’re apart we’re not ‘Apart’.
Find a way to remind them that you still have them at heart: It might be sending an SMS, leaving a message in their inbox, for those in the ’Smartphone age’ sending old pictures of you guys, making a big deal out of their birthdays, etc. We all don’t react nicely to being forgotten, So if you know that friendship means something to you it’s worth the effort.
Finally, Parting is not easy but its inevitable. Depending on how it’s handled it can foster or break the dearest of friendships. Someone said ‘Parting is such sweet-sorrow’ but I say we can make it more ‘sweet’ than ‘sorrow’. I’ll love to get feedback from you on dealing with Parting, So hit the comment button
This is so true! I always have issues parting with close friends because I feel like our friendship would be over but I have learned instead to find out how i can fit into their new lives. Parting doesn’t always feel great but in a lot of cases it creates the strongest bonds. 🙂
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That’s so True
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Hmmmm, ur best is yet to come. Am blessed by this write up. More grace.
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Thanks mum.. 😘😘
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Now,u re gonna make me cry buh I wont. I feel at some point keeping up with relationships its not easy cos its anoda phase and new pple will be found plus some pple will really get busy wif work and relationships but wat makes it beautiful is catching up on old times and picking off from where u left weneva deres an encounter or a reunion,I don’t feel we should complain too much about letting go or parting
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It really is sweet sorrow. Nice work.
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Thanks dear
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i almost broke down in tears while reading this because however we might want to try to keep up, the first few weeks, months might be quite the rush of sugar, but after a while it just wears out, you sometimes feel terrible for not being able to keep in touch, as life always has a way of getting the best of us. i believe your tips really go a long way, but then it sometimes is sweet-bitter-sorrow…
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Yh, We can’t deny the fact Consistency is key.. Thanks bro
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I agree it’s always so hard but like you said its inevitable. I’ve learnt to try to keep in touch, even if it’s once a month.
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True, Thanks dear
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Nice write-up jack!!.
More grace..
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Thanks a lot dear
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This is just it!!! God help me
God bless you so muchie Jacque
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This is incredibly helpful, Boy! I’ve got to learn to keep in touch.😊
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This is such a nice piece and it’s true..
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Thanks dear, I’m glad you like it
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Beautiful piece!
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Thanks sis
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this an awesome piece
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Thanks
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The inevitability of losing friends dear to you is something have learnt to live with!!!
Letting go , without letting go is a difficult task.
Great piece man
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A goal that’s easy to start and hard to sustain. I am a victim.
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It’s a beautiful piece dear… and very helpful. God bless you.
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Letting go without letting go is a great piece…
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Parting is inevitable, but shared goals and interests can foster the relationship. Thanks for this and thanks for always keeping in touch.
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Its My pleasure dear, thanks for always being there. Thank you for your comment. Kindly follow the page to stay updated with our latest stories and posts
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Amazing write up!!Keep up the work dear..
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Will do.. Thanks
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Beautiful piece
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Thanks dear
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